When I first dreamed up Visible, I wanted conversations that felt like exhaling — the ones you leave thinking thank God, it’s not just me.
This week’s guest is exactly that.
Cat Sims is a writer who has built a community by saying out loud the things so many of us have quietly carried: the messy truths of motherhood, the chaos of undiagnosed ADHD, the mental load that makes you want to scream (or divorce), the food noise that never shuts up, and the strange relief that comes with not giving so many f*cks in your 40s.
In this episode we talk about:
Why reaching 40 can feel liberating, not limiting
Sobriety, anxiety and finding new ways to cope when life gets “lifey”
The mental load in marriage — and why the rage over a single sock on the floor is never about the sock
Weight, Mounjaro, body image and the difference between honesty and shame
The underrated superpower of midlife: courage without people pleasing
Cat is funny, frank and keeping it very real. She reminds us the very act of telling the truth and saying stuff out loud, can be the thing that sets someone else free.
✨ My favourite line from the conversation:
“I don’t have any f*cks left to give.”
If you’ve ever felt the quiet rage of the mental load, wrestled with wine o’clock, or wondered if you’ll ever feel at home in your own body — this episode is for you.
🎧 Listen to Episode 4 of Visible wherever you get your podcasts.
And if it resonates, forward it to a friend who needs the reminder that we’re not supposed to do any of this alone 💌
Links & resources
Follow Cat Sims on Instagram @notsosmugnow and on Substack: https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/
Chapter 39 on Substack: https://chapter39.substack.com/
Visible on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Chapter39Official
Buy The Mental Load Diaries on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mental-Load-Diaries-Cat-Sims/dp/1398549401
